I was speaking with someone who was stuck in one of the holes in life that we can all get in to. The kind of hole one can try to fill with all kinds of stuff to avoid or ignore it but only makes it worse. The pits, so to speak. I was sharing my firm belief that God is the only one who can fill such a hole in a life to create a whole soul filled with new life and vitality.

This individual said God was my answer to everything, as if this was untrue. It has been my experience that He is the answer to almost everything, and certainly to the hole in a soul. It’s a void only God can fill, and a pit only He can get one out of. God loves each of us- every bump, every conflict, and every bruise. Every kindness, ALL of our very big hearts’, and even the hole in the soul. He longs to fill it. And when we are honestly ready to change, to look in the hole, explore it, feel it, and heal it,  He will be the one to help us. Not our BFF. Not our spouse. Not me or you. God. The ultimate fixer. And he can handle all of our anger at Him, and He will change it to joy.

We don’t hide things from God; he already knows what’s in us. He wants US to see what the hole is about so He can plant and cultivate new life in it. When we are digging, the hole gets deeper, bigger and before long we may feel as if the hole is a endless pit, a canyon between our perceived reality and the reality that is God’s desire for each to have wholeness in their soul. We need not pretend everything is so great when it’s not. Social media is not reality, it is the side the person posting wants others to see.

Avoiding confrontation with feelings of pain, emptiness, loneliness, struggle, uselessness, depression, angst, anxiety, inadequacy, rejection, etc. only enlarges those aspects of the hole to a void status. The void is the emptiness in and around us when we stay in the hole. Any peace is fleeting; it comes and goes like the wind. We try to run away from the hole, but find ourselves digging deeper, because it is familiar. We look for geographical cures. People go party with friends, smoke weed until they can’t stay awake anymore, and drink until they drown in a pool of alcohol… But, the hole is still there when we get back home, when we come to, when we wake up. It will be deeper, darker, emptier. It’s with us wherever we go, and we cannot get away from it. It will not leave us but it will continue to envelop us. It will overtake and destroy until it is destroyed by the love of God through Jesus Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit.

The power comes when we stop fighting the answer. The win is in the surrender. The fight is harder when we already know the answer; we are convicted by prior experience, (through the Holy Spirit) and we choose to return to our hole, our own familiar ways of coping and sitting on the pity potty. Even if we say, “But you don’t know what I’ve been through!”… God knows. God has a purpose in everything we go through.

When we ignore the hole, we just dig deeper. Put the shovel down. Sit on the dirt pile for a bit and explore the hole. What does it look like? Why does it look the way it does? How can it be filled in? How and why did it get his big? And then, with shovel in hand, we make a decision to stop digging, start filling it in, and ask God for his help. That is when the hole becomes wholly different. We decide to put a tree, or flower bulbs, or seeds in that hole, and then use the dirt. Only pick up that shovel if you’re planting and need to scatter some dirt so good things grow. God loves us. God cares about what we’re going through. God is here for us. God will take the hole in any soul and make the soul whole. He is the only one who can do it.

Once we face the music of life, acknowledge the broken chords, mixed tempos, crappy instruments we received… we can exchange them for a beautiful symphony.

I hope you find your way. The answer is always there. God is greater than any circumstance in life. I wish I had understood it sooner. The hole in your soul need not be a bottomless pit when it can be a garden. God is a fabulous gardener. Where once I had holes… many holes of various sizes… I now have fabulous flowers.



PSALM 103:1-12

A Psalm of David

1 Bless the Lord, O my soul;
And all that is within me, bless His holy name!
Bless the Lord, O my soul,
And forget not all His benefits:
Who forgives all your iniquities,
Who heals all your diseases,
Who redeems your life from destruction,
Who crowns you with lovingkindness and tender mercies,
Who satisfies your mouth with good things,
So that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

The Lord executes righteousness
And justice for all who are oppressed.
He made known His ways to Moses,
His acts to the children of Israel.
The Lord is merciful and gracious,
Slow to anger, and abounding in mercy.
He will not always strive with us,
Nor will He keep His anger forever.
10 He has not dealt with us according to our sins,
Nor punished us according to our iniquities.

11 For as the heavens are high above the earth,
So great is His mercy toward those who fear Him;
12 As far as the east is from the west,
So far has He removed our transgressions from us.